Chiara Atik

May 10

My Mom Stalked Her Dates Before Google Even Existed. -

Chiara Atik is HowAboutWe’s writer in residence. Her book, Modern Dating: A Field Guide, is now available. For the next few weeks, she’ll be discussing topics from the book with bloggers, journalists, comedians, and other people with lots of opinions on dating. This week is her mom, Susan.

A GChat With My Mom, On The Topic of Dating

Me: If you were dating now, what medium do you think you’d use to communicate with guys — phone? text? email?
twitter?
Susan: email and text. Definitely not twitter. And preferably not phone, because it puts people on the spot. Like me.
Me: I know you really hate the phone
GChat is good for dating but sometimes hard because if you’re both online all day, there’s pressure to TALK all day
Sent at 3 51 PM on Thursday
Me: ….mom?

November 11, 2009: My First Ever GChat With My Mom

me: hi MOM
38 minutes
me: MOMMM
helloooooo
54 minutes
me: MOOOOOM
10 minutes
me: mooooommmmmmmmmmmm
9 minutes
Susan: oh, wow. cool

May 09

Jill Biden. Michelle Obama. PRINCE HARRY. Making “Mother’s Day Treats.”

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theatlantic:

How to Not Hate Dating

You have to figure out a way to be happy without a partner, without a date, without sex, without a response to that text or a “like” on a Facebook picture or a flirty exchange on GChat.

Read more. [Image: Reuters]

(via meredithbklyn)

ilovecharts:

Matchmaking on the Subway

If you’ve ever found yourself asking “Where have all the good men gone?” Erika’s answer is, quite simply, the F line. Or the C line, or the L, depending on your taste. They’re going to work, they’re going to see friends, they’re going to run errands, and, for the most part, they’re getting there by subway. Her logic makes sense: what do all the single men of New York City have in common? Well, they pretty much all take the train. -

I went on a blind date set up by the subway matchmaker last week!

May 08

me: okay
let's
write
for HALF AN HOUR
and then check in
Leah: i was going to go lay my head down in the sink
but okay

May 07

“You don’t need a relationship to make you happy. You are the culmination of centuries of women who protested in pantaloons for your right to spend a Tuesday night reading a book with a glass of wine instead of cooking dinner for the family you felt societal pressure to have.” —

“Why Dating Is Important”

Modern Dating: A Field Guide

(via howaboutweblog)

A Geech With Kelly Williams Brown

Kelly: I think it’s also important, when you ask someone out
to be really fucking clear about your intentions.
Me: YES
Kelly: Like, the whole reason you are finding this bravery within yourself is because you can’t bear to not know.
Me: “Hey, maybe we could get together to talk about a project” is not a date
Kelly: So don’t water that down by writing something that could be interpreted as just friendly.
“Hey, my roommates and I are having a party on Saturday” — also not a date.
me: “Hey, awesome seeing you Saturday. Any interest in getting a drink sometime?” Date!
Kelly: Date!
Me: “Hey, awesome seeing you Saturday. I might be in the neighborhood this weekend, let me know if you’re around.” Nooooot a date.
Kelly: Not a date.
Asking someone out on a date should contain a call to action. The more specific, the better.
“Hey, it was great seeing you Saturday. Want to grab a drink after work this Friday?”
Me: Genius. Totally a date.